"I know that I’m doing a good job raising feminist sons when they ask my opinion on current events or seek my help with computer issues," says Varda, a mother of eight sons. "I know I’m doing a good job when my boys see my husband doing the dishes or the laundry, or even better, when my boys do those jobs themselves because I’m busy with the work that puts a roof over their heads. It’s all about setting an example. If there’s equality in the home, then there is no reason for sons to see women as less than men.
"My sons are being raised as feminist partly because they each split their chores with their sisters, my husband and me," says Lydia, a mother of two sons. "They see my husband and I divide up the dishes and the laundry, and they each help out by taking on a different task each day and rotating. One day my one daughter is doing the dishes and the other is helping fold the laundry while the boys are helping mow the lawn or rake the leaves. And the next day they're switching it up."
"When I was growing up, my mother wouldn't let me have a boy upstairs and I couldn't even date until I was 18," says Samantha, a mother of one son and a daughter. "Meanwhile, my two brothers had their girlfriends at the house all the time, and they sometimes even slept over. I want both my son and my daughter to be open and honest with me about their lives so they're given equal treatment and rules. They're given the same curfews and they're allowed to date so long as they're honest with me about where they're going and who they're seeing. I want my daughter to grow up with autonomy, and I want my son to see that."
"Some moms don't want to work or can't for specific circumstances, and that's fine, but I choose to work and have continued to do so even since having my son last year," Gina, a new mother, says. "I'm a single mother and I want to have enough to support my son on my own. He's growing up with a mother who works hard and makes the time to spend time with him, too. He's learning dedication and balance from his mother."
"My husband and I regularly talk to our sons about feminism," Patty, a mother of four sons, says. "It all started when our youngest came home asking about a girl in his class. He let us know that the teacher wouldn't let her play kickball with them because boys and girls weren't supposed to play sports together. We told him that the next time that happens that he doesn't play unless everyone can play. We teach all of our sons to practice equality and recognize sexism every day."